|
Can you completely accept someone regardless of their past?
Tuesday, 19 March 2013 • 22:03 • 0 comments
I've learned quite a lot during this phase of 'moving ahead'
If you can't accept someone's past, then don't accept them at all. Remember, what you are in your past, makes who you are right now. People make mistakes, give them a chance.
I've learned that you can't believe someone just because they say sweet and fancy things to you each and everyday. Or even, sometimes they're trying to prove that they care just to get your attention, to fall for them. I've learned that I know, I gave my very best towards someone I love. But I can't give them everything.
Because when they walked out, I'll be left with nothing. Absolutely nothing.
I've learned that 'letting go' is not the only option. It's your choice. You have the choice to let go, or work things out when you love someone. It puts a lot of effort, and you can't be the only one fighting to maintain a strong bond when it's already on the rocks. You need to be strong on both sides.
I've learned that playing with other people feelings won't make you happy. Because one day, you will face the same thing. It's wrong to leave someone who gave you so much effort in keeping you happy. You should appreciate the ones that are always trying to make you happy, even if they're full of flaws. They always tried to give their very best.
But mostly, I've learned to forgive someone who gave me so much pain. Manusia, kadang kadang susah untuk betul betul maafkan. Bila orang tanya, masihkah aku berdendam. The answer is NO. Bukan sebab aku suka apa yang dah robekkan hati aku. Sebab, aku tak mampu nak ingat lagi. The more we hold grudge towards someone, the more it stings our heart, and we can't get it out of our head. And that's just impossible to let things go and move on.
To be true, the moment when I said 'I forgive you'. Semua salah silap aku maafkan walaupun lukanya terlalu dalam.' I moved on slowly. Kadang kadang, memang susah nak maafkan orang yang terlalu menyakiti kita. Tapi, apa yang kita perlu buat selain maafkan? Balas? Itu bukan kerja kita. Itu tugas pencipta kita. Manusia semua penuh dengan salah silap. Kalau hari ini kita menderita, dia bahagia. Esok kita bahagia, dia menderita. Siapa tahu. Allah itu maha adil bukan?
Kadang kadang, kita selalu alpa. Yang manusia semua buat kesilapan. Bukan aku nak kata, yang kita ni bebas buat kesilapan dan orang bebas memaafkan. It's just that, manusia kadang kadang, bila tiba masa bodoh tak berfikirnya, buat juga benda benda yang tak patut dibuatnya. Kalau selama kita hidup kita dapat hindar buat benda tu semua, itu mungkin bonus bagi kita. Tapi, bagi orang lain, anggap sahaja lah, yang itu dosa pahala antara dia dengan tuhan. Bukan dengan kita. Kita siapa untuk judge lebih. Can we consider it that way? Mungkin, cara aku berfikir masih lain dari apa yang orang lain fikir? Mungkin. Bukan apa, kadang kadang, bila dah tahu tu. Terkaku. Terdiam pun ada. Tapi bila fikir balik. Selagi benda itu tidak melibatkan aku, apa salahnya beri dia peluang untuk menjadi someone new and someone even better?
Orang yang baik, tak selamanya boleh jadi baik.Dan orang yang jahat, tak selamanya takkan berubah untuk nak menjadi baik.
What I know is, people make mistakes. You can't afford to not make mistakes. Mistakes make us who we are. To be a better person. To be wiser in life. It's just that sometimes, some people choose to do it again and again, because some people will never learn.
Benda dah lepas. Apa yang perlu kita ungkitkan lagi,bukan ? Hmmm, to be true, it's wrong to judge someone's past. Maybe the real thing all along is, whatever they have done in their past, good things or even bad, screw all of it. Be there for them, and help them to be someone better. Aku tak rasa semua orang suka masa silamnya dikritik. Dikata bodoh, dikata tidak berakal. Semua ada masa masa gelap dan naif dan terlebih diorang. Cuma kisahnya berbeza beza.
| 
 O W N E R
 - Name : Nur Farah Hafizah Binti Abdullah - Nickname : Just more comfortable, Farah - Birthday : 07/August/1994 - Years : 19 years old - Current City : Malacca - Status : Azeem's S O U L M A T E
 
C B O X
H I S T O R Y D' Credits
© Skin by Nur Aliaa Header by Atiqah Jaidin. Image from 동방. Do tell me if I do not credit yours. Don't open my page source!
|
